Navel gazing

The last few months have been kind of tough for this family. Parts of this toughness have resulted in lots of joy and lots of love coming into our lives. Parts have resulted in a little more healing. Other parts have just been tough.

Reading back over the last few months of blog posts, I realised that I've been kind of stuck. Almost every post is about grief or a dead member of our family. Warrior Wednesdays, things to or about Daddy Kewl... And not a whole lot else. Certainly not much evidence of the spectacularly magical moments the Kewl girls are (or should be!) reknowned for.

The last post I wrote was about wanting to go back - not just to the old blog, but to what life was like for us this time last year. When I reread that post now, I don't like where my thoughts were at. I know that time is perpetual motion. It does not stop and you cannot go back, the absolute best you can do is embrace the now and look forward to the future. I know this, but I don't seem to be living by it.
I think the title, "Back to the Future", was an attempt by my subconscious to articulating the fact that more than going back in time, I want to create certain feelings from the past in my future. I want the joy and that sense of family back in the here and now. Today. And living in the past is never going to achieve this.

So, as of today, I'm readjusting my gaze. I've had enough of looking backwards - my neck is sore and I keep tripping over things in the here and now - or worse still - missing the important bits, because I'm not paying enough attention to where I am or where I'm going.
I may not be surrounded by my freak family and I may not be watching Zy grow up - But I AM surrounded by an amazing family of little people, and I have the absolute privileged of watching them grow up.
My family is not stuck back at this time last year, and neither is the love and the joy that I want to fill my life with. Everything I want is right here, right now.

In fact, life is pretty spectacular, really. You just have to know where to look.


Melody said...

Exactly. I'm glad you've readjusted your gaze. Life, is in fact, beautiful.

Fe said...

You're amazing.

I'm not feeling particularly great right now, as you know. But I know, deep inside, that I am going to be able to appreciate all that I have, and how incredibly rich my life is, soon.

And when i'm a bit more healed, I'm going to come back to this post to read your words again and see how far I've come. Thank you.


Anonymous said...

The navel, they say, is the centre of your being. Maybe it's time for you to gaze and centre, ready for a new phase.

Anonymous said...

I am glad you are feeling more optomistic.

This post made me smile.


MissyBoo said...

I love you even more in 'looking forward' mode :)

Sunny Road Mum said...

I am a big beleiver in the power of positive thinking and I think it's great that you are able to make a positive change to your outlook. It says a lot about your strength and resolve. You're an amazingly kewl person and Mum. xxoo

PlanningQueen said...

Alison you always seem to be able to reflect so honestly on how you are feeling. I sincerely wish for you and your family the very brightest future!